Have you been wanting to make and share creative work with the world, but have felt held back for some reason?
Perhaps you have a book you’re sitting on, a song that in your heart, or a painting that is struggling to come through. This article is all about self-expression wounds – how to acknowledge them and how to move on so you can get to creating!
When we are young, self-expression wounds can come fast and hard. Kids in my family were ruthless with each other – we called each other names when sharing our creativity.
I remember singing songs in the kitchen, and being mindfully aware that I didn’t want anyone to hear me for a fear that they would tell me I sounded horrible!
I never wanted to hear the rejection, so I stayed quiet. I was content to be the quiet shy girl, fighting my own urges to burst into song to avoid criticism from my siblings.
Us shiny free spirited types can be especially prone to these self-expression wounds because we tend to be misunderstood.
Things we share are deeply important to us, and if they are not met with support or even acknowledgment, we can end up doubting ourselves and whether or not we have anything of value to say.
The first step to healing our self-expression wounds is to recognize that they are there, and where they may have come from.
They don’t even have to originate in childhood – they can be from time spent in academia, teachers criticizing your work, people criticizing your art or writings online, internal shame from past trauma that shoots attempts to create down before they even get off the ground, etc.
Now that you’ve identified it, it’s time to forgive it and the other person involved.
I find it helpful to first write out my genuine feelings towards the person (anger, rage, sadness, grief) and then use the forgiveness mantra ho’oponopono – I forgive you, I’m sorry, I love you, Thank you – to clear up the energy with a swift go.
The trickiest and most important part of healing these wounds is to keep showing up.
For me, healing these wounds looks like continuing to show up and speak, even if it feels like no one is really listening. It means sharing what’s in my heart, even if I’m scared people will hate it. It means being honest in my words because anything less than the truth will cause me to regret speaking at all.
By continuing to face my fears and trepidations, a lot of my pain and suffering of these wounds have dissipated. The amount of support I’ve been shown far outweighs my past critics opinions. By continuing to show up, you give yourself the same opportunity to silence the doubts with a wave of happy supporters.
It takes practice, courage, and the willingness to feel foolish. It takes doing what makes you uncomfortable, it takes looking the fear in the face.
What have you discovered you need to forgive and move past? What actions could you take this week to move towards your desire to create?
You will never know the freedom of using your beautiful creative voice unless you try.
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